Hari abantu bavuga ngo "mbwira inshuti zawe nkubwire uwo uri we." Nubwo ari umugani umaze igihe, ugifite ukuri kugeza n'uyu munsi. Inshuti tugirana na zo zigira uruhare rukomeye mu mitekerereze yacu, imyitwarire yacu ndetse no ku cyerekezo cy'ubuzima bwacu.

Abantu benshi bibwira ko inshuti ari abo muganira cyangwa musangira ibihe byiza gusa. Nyamara inshuti nyakuri ni izikuba hafi igihe ubikeneye, zikakugira inama nziza, zikagutera imbaraga kandi zikagufasha kuba umuntu mwiza kurushaho.

Ese ubushakashatsi buvuga iki ku kugira inshuti nziza?

Ubushakashatsi buzwi ku izina rya Harvard Study of Adult Development, bwatangiye muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika mu 1938 bukaba bumaze imyaka irenga 80 bukurikirana ubuzima bw'abantu, bwagaragaje ko ikintu gifite uruhare runini mu munezero no kuramba atari ubutunzi cyangwa kuba icyamamare, ahubwo ari umubano mwiza umuntu afitanye n'abandi.

Abashakashatsi basanze abantu bafite inshuti nziza n'umubano mwiza n'abandi bakunze kugira ubuzima bwiza bwo mu mutwe, bakagira ibyishimo byinshi kandi bakagira ibyago bike byo kwiheba ugereranyije n'ababaho bonyine cyangwa bafite umubano mubi.

Ni kimwe n'uko Ishami ry'Umuryango w'Abibumbye ryita ku Buzima (WHO) rigaragaza ko kugira abantu bagushyigikira mu buzima bifasha kugabanya ihungabana, guhangayika no kwiheba.

1. Inshuti nziza zigutera imbaraga mu bihe bikomeye

Ubuzima bugira ibihe byiza n'ibigoranye. Hari igihe umuntu ashobora kubura akazi, gutsindwa cyangwa guhura n'ikibazo gikomeye. Muri ibyo bihe, inshuti nziza irakumva, ikagutega amatwi kandi ikagufasha kongera icyizere.

Hari ubwo ijambo rimwe ry'inshuti cyangwa kuba iri iruhande rwawe bishobora kukongerera imbaraga kurusha ibindi byinshi.

2. Zigufasha gufata ibyemezo byiza

Iyo umuntu ari wenyine, ashobora gufata ibyemezo yihuse cyangwa bishingiye ku marangamutima. Ariko inshuti nziza irakubwiza ukuri, n'iyo kwaba kutakunezeza.

Ibi bituma wirinda amakosa menshi kandi ugafata imyanzuro itekerejweho neza.

3. Zigufasha gutera imbere

Abantu tugendana bagira uruhare runini ku ntego zacu. Iyo ugendana n'abakunda gukora, kwiga no kwiteza imbere, na we bituma ugira ishyaka ryo gukora cyane.

Ni yo mpamvu bavuga ko umuntu agenda asa n'abo abana na bo.

4. Zigufasha kugira ubuzima bwiza bwo mu mutwe

Kuganira n'umuntu ukwumva bishobora kugabanya agahinda no kugabanya stress. Nubwo inshuti idashobora gukemura ibibazo byose, kuba ifite igihe cyo kukumva bishobora gutuma wumva worohewe.

5. Zigufasha gukosora amakosa

Nta muntu utunganye. Inshuti nyakuri ntitinya kukwereka aho wibeshye, ariko ibikora mu cyubahiro no mu rukundo, igamije ko uba mwiza kurushaho aho kukugaya.

6. Zigufasha kubaka icyizere

Iyo uzi ko hari abantu bakwizera kandi bagushyigikiye, urushaho kugira icyizere cyo kugerageza ibintu bishya no guhangana n'imbogamizi.

7. Zigufasha kwiga ibintu bishya

Buri muntu agira ubumenyi bwe n'uburambe bwe. Inshuti nziza ishobora kukwigisha ubumenyi bushya, kukwereka amahirwe cyangwa kukumenyesha amakuru atuma utera imbere.

8. Zigufasha kugira indangagaciro nziza

Iyo ugendana n'abantu b'inyangamugayo, bubaha abandi kandi bakunda gukora ibyiza, na we bigenda bikugiraho ingaruka nziza. Ni yo mpamvu ari ingenzi guhitamo neza abo wemerera kuba inshuti zawe.

Nugute wamenya ko inshuti yawe ari nziza?

Nubwo nta muntu utunganye, inshuti nziza ikunze kurangwa n'ibi bikurikira:

• Irakubaha kandi ikubwira ukuri.
• Ishimishwa n'iterambere ryawe aho kukugirira ishyari.
• Ntiguhatira gukora ibintu bibi.
• Iba hafi yawe no mu bihe bikomeye, atari mu byishimo gusa.
• Ikugira inama zigufasha gukura no gutera imbere.

Ubucuti ni kimwe mu bintu bifite agaciro gakomeye mu buzima bw'umuntu. Inshuti nziza zishobora kugufasha gutsinda ibihe bikomeye, gutera imbere no kugira ubuzima burangwa n'ibyishimo n'amahoro yo mu mutima.

Nubwo kugira inshuti nziza ari ingenzi, na we ujye uharanira kuba inshuti nziza ku bandi. Kubaha, kubwizanya ukuri, gufashanya no kwifurizanya ibyiza ni byo bituma ubucuti buramba kandi bukagira umumaro.

Mu buzima, inshuti nziza si iziboneka ku bwinshi, ahubwo ni izigira uruhare mu gutuma uba umuntu mwiza kurushaho.